Type 1: the choleric
Unpredictable freaks overtake your boss at irregular intervals, at completely unpredictable times. Unfortunately, being a victim of these choleric seizures is no fun at all and you want nothing more than to just yell back. Understandable, but not a good idea. Better do the opposite: take a deep breath and keep calm. How to take the wind from the sails of the screamer.
If it is unbearable, leave the room with the remark that this is now too much for you. Nevertheless, the problem has to be addressed at some point: preferably with a quiet, private conversation. If nothing changes afterwards, get support – for example from the works council.
Type 2: The flag in the wind
Your boss interprets flexible working in his very own way: “Today like this, tomorrow like this” is his motto, he rarely makes clear announcements, and if you do, you can’t rely on them. With a trick you protect yourself against such mood changes. Even if it is more work at first: Have important work instructions given in writing. For example, summarize meetings and agreements in an email to your boss. Even if he does not respond, you will at least have a document with a date that you can refer to if in doubt.
Type 3: The control freak
Sometimes you wonder why your boss hired you at all, because he checks every step of your work, doesn’t seem to trust you and prefers to do everything yourself anyway. Instead of defiantly reacting to his behavior, just be one step ahead of your manager. Give him unsolicited updates on your work and inform him about partial successes of your projects – thereby proving that he can rely on you.
Type 4: The exposed person
Regardless of whether it is justified or not: the supervisor should not come around the corner in front of the assembled team with criticism of your work. Nevertheless: He sits on the longer lever. In the meeting in front of your colleagues, you can do nothing else than accept the criticism. Afterwards, however, you should seek a personal conversation with the boss and report back to him how you feel through his behavior and that the public criticism could also affect your performance and the recognition in the team.
Type 5: the thief of ideas
You had this terrific idea, which will take your project forward decisively and take the wind out of the competition. You have already received the praise of the boss, now you can look forward to that of the other colleagues when they hear about it in the meeting. But then that: The boss sells your idea as his own. And you? Look stupid and want to scream. Better not do that. Instead, seek a personal interview with your manager. Do not attack him directly, but emphasize that you were also involved in the concept. If your boss decorates his feathers more often, it is better to ask him aggressively why he does not mention you when presenting the concepts.
Type 6: the ignorant
You never get feedback from the boss and often ask yourself if he is even aware of the success you have achieved. Speak to him! Do not whine in the conversation, otherwise you might get the impression that you are not self-employed and that you have to be praised for every step you take on your own. Instead, note that you can focus better if you get feedback from the boss about the jobs he is particularly happy with.
No matter what type of stress your boss is, the following always applies:
- Don’t take the boss’s whims personally.
- If a problem recurs again and again, a conversation with the boss is essential. Describe the problem, signal the need for change.
- Are the problems with your boss really still normal office life or are they already harassing? When bosses target their employees, it’s called bossing. In any case, seek help from the works council or advice.
- Nice when you are ready to deal with the problems with your boss. But don’t put up with everything – at some point the limit is reached. Then it is better to look for a new job or to be transferred.